Carrie is keeping her reconciliation with Big a secret for reasons that, I assume, have to do with her being the worst. And here are some other reasons she’s the worst.
#1: She is out with her friends at Charlotte’s gallery opening. With Charlotte and Miranda already there with dates and Samantha seeing a man she knows, Carrie decides the right thing to do is fake a headache and run over to Big’s place.
#2: Charlotte catches her date for the evening making out with someone else, which leads to a whole conversation about what constitutes cheating. Carrie points out that women cheat too (she would know). Charlotte says she won’t tolerate cheating. Samantha says she’s more forgiving (to a point, as we will later learn in Season 4). Carries says you can’t define cheating in absolute terms (AIDAN, RUN, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVEN’T MET HER YET) and that “someone’s definition of what constitutes cheating is in direct proportion to how much they themselves want to cheat.” What does that even mean???? You are THE WORST.
SIDEBAR CHARLOTTE’S NEW FRIENDS: After catching her date fooling around in the back room of her gallery, she thinks spending all her time with a group of lesbians will free her from the constraints off…men always cheating, I guess?
SIDEBAR MIRANDA’S NEW GUY IS ADDICTED TO PORN: He can’t DO IT without his favorite video. Moving on…
#4 – At Big’s, Carrie’s attempt to make Big dinner is heating up cheese for fondue and tearing up the bread to go with it. One taste and Big then forces Carrie to try it, where they both agree they should go out to dinner. Before they do that, she has to mention that she hasn’t told any of her friends they are back together. When he says he hasn’t either, she then grills him on why he is being so secretive, and he doesn’t really have an answer. But neither does she when he asks her what she WANTS him to tell his friends. Because she’s the worst.
#5 – Miranda catches Carrie walk of shaming home from Big’s. Since this is still a Big secret, she says she’s in that neighborhood for a 7am teeth cleaning. She quickly changes the subject to ask Miranda about Ethan. But Miranda is no fool and also points out Carrie is too dressed up to be going to the dentist. She quickly responds that it is laundry day, which placates Miranda. She says in her voiceover that she feels guilty lying to Mirand but her face says otherwise.
SIDEBAR SAMANTHA SLEEPS WITH HER TRAINER: He of course claims he has never done this before, which turns out to be an enourmous lie.
#6 – The girls are over at Carrie’s for drinks. Carrie has to admit that her diaphragm is stuck and that one of them needs to help her or she will have to make an emergency gyno visit. Samantha does it. On the way to the movies, they finally think to ask who she’s sleeping with and she admits it’s Big. They are all horrified (as expected) and start barraging her with questions. (None of which are, “Bitch what the fuck is wrong with you?”) Because she doesn’t get the congratulatory squealing she was hoping for, she just storms off.
#7 – On a date with Big, she asks if they are officially seeing each other again. The following conversation ensues:.
Big: If you say so.
Carrie: That is an infuriating response.
Big: Well I don’t know what officially means.
Carrie: Officially means officially. (YOU KEEP USING THAT WORD)
Big: Oh.
Carrie: You know, for real.
This conversation is too painful to continue but basically she’s all “why did we break up” and he says, “you tell me” and she’s all “you didn’t tell me what I wanted to hear.”
After all this he says, “I sure did miss you. Officially.” I HAVE QUESTIONS. If he missed her so much why is it that she has to do all the heavy lifting? Is he just lazy? Why is he making me defend Carrie Bradshaw, #theworst?
Carrie Bradshaw is the Worst 
The porn obsession is disturbing. Its a major problem for many too.
We rewatched this whole thing again and Big and Carrie make no sense .
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